Being With Being

Searching For Meaning After Cancer Diagnosis

In April of 2016, at the age of 54, I was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer which had been discovered following a hysterectomy. Friends felt sorry that this had occurred on the back of my 30-year marriage ending in 2014, however, I can say in all honesty that both the separation and the cancer have been blessings on so many levels. Without a doubt, over the course of my marriage, I had become voiceless and powerless, and was not living my souls purpose. As such, the universe, in its own unique way, found a way to get me moving!  The Cancer?  Well, I have every faith that they have something special in mind for me regarding that as well. In searching for greater meaning after a cancer diagnosis, it’s natural to begin questioning everything about your life, and what lays beyond. What was the purpose of my life? Where Read More

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A Journey Through Trust & Letting Go

I like to tout the expression “Let go, Let God”.   But as with all things,  I often question if I’m actually living what I preach.  And rightly so.   To find out,  I headed off to India for a month,  declaring it my My Eat Pray Love year.    Well, OK, so it was only a month, and I was on a guided tour.  But learning and insight can take place anywhere at anytime.  I had already spent a good many years wandering the globe on solo journeys, so I can tell you it makes no difference.  But I digress. The point is, after 30 years of marriage and co-dependent living, I was incredibly fearful about stepping out into the world on my own.  This journey was about taking a risk on myself, on my life.  It was about practicing trust in the universe to guide me, and simply letting go.  Letting go Read More

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Fairytale Relationships – When ‘Loving Too Much’ is Destructive

When a long-term marriage comes to an end, it’s an opportunity to let go of the life you thought you wanted in order to manifest the life you truly deserve.    In getting to this stage, you must be prepared to let go of the illusion of the fairytale.  Sometimes, A Frog is Really a Frog Despite the woman’s movement taking us out of the kitchen and into the world of equal opportunity, it seems that even the strongest, most independent and intelligent of us women, still manage to become needy and dependent when love finds its way into our hearts.    For me, it was 1986 (some 30 years ago, but who’s counting).    It started with an unconscious recreation of the Cinderella complex – a term I made up – but essentially it’s an inability to distinguish fairytale from reality.   A belief that no matter how bad you’re relationship is, it Read More