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Searching For Meaning After Cancer Diagnosis

In February of 2015 I left my marriage of 30years.  The next year, April 2016, the day after Mothers Day, at the age of 54, I was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer and told I had 2 to 3 years to live.  Maybe 4 with chemo.  Do I feel blessed?  Absolutely!  The cancer, and my marriage breakdown, have both catapulted me towards becoming a more authentic version of myself!   An unexpected diagnosis brings home the truth that we simply can’t know what lay ahead, so why do we spend so much time focusing our attention on a future in which we have no control? I am now simply at the next phase of my life here and now. The cancer has created so many blessings, and perhaps if I didn’t already have such strong spiritual conviction, I may have missed recognising these beautiful blessed gifts. In searching for greater meaning Read More

Hidden Anger

Exposing Hidden Anger and Giving it a Voice

In this important blog, we’re exposing hidden anger and giving it a voice.  People will tell you that anger, bitterness, hurt –  all unpleasant emotions – fade over time.  They don’t.  Especially if they are deeply rooted in pain and fear.  My apologies if that sounds harsh, but if you’re going to heal,  you have to get real.   Right from early childhood, we develop an ability to suppress negative emotions and create ‘coping mechanisms’ to deal with situations that seem beyond our control.   Over time, as we grow older, those coping mechanisms no longer work, so new ways to deal with unpleasant feelings and emotions are found.  Often this is how addictions begin.    Children who grew up in a violent environment, or one in which a parent was always raging and threatening,  will find it most difficult to express anger.  In fact, as adults they see any form of anger as a negative, and fear Read More